Honesty

A half truth is a whole lie. Yiddish Proverb
How many of us can remember challenging our parents on the truthfulness of a statement they made and getting a reply that said it was okay to fib as that was not a real lie? I do and I have to believe I am not the only one. I also remember as a parent doing the same thing with my children. I cannot believe that I am the only parent that has done that.
How often when we are asked a question that has more than one possible answer do we tell the part that make us comfortable and omit the other parts? I do, do you? I don’t do that all the time, but I do it.
Somehow, over however many years, we have come to believe that not telling the complete truth and being totally honest is okay under certain conditions that we each define for ourselves. Am I the only one that finds the rationalization of the truth and being honest a statement of enormous hypocrisy? I hope not. I keep finding myself in situations where I excuse myself for not being completely honest and convincing myself that it is okay because I don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings or some other convenient reason that sounds good and makes sense.
The bottom line is as the Yiddish Proverb states: A half truth is a whole lie. There is no good reason to be dishonest. We all expect others to be honest with us, yet when they are honest in a way that we take offense, we wish they had lied or not said anything. I always come back to motives; what was my intent in telling you what I did? Was it to offend you? In that case I would suggest that the dishonesty lies within my soul rather than the truth I feel compelled to share with you.
When I don’t tell me the whole truth about me there is no way I will ever be able to tell you the whole truth. I have learned in my journey that “my” truths shall set me free.
My prayer for you today is that your truths set you free so your honesty will be filled with your truths rather than my defects.
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