I would rather regret the things that I have done than the things that I have not. Lucille Ball
Most if not all of us remember Lucy in a variety of ways commencing with her zany and brilliant comedic talent. Lucy always had an action plan; whether she was successful or not, never mattered. For her, life was about action, not wishing and regretting.
I know there are many things I regret in my life, but my list of things I wish I had done is shorter than the list of things I did that didn’t work out the way I hoped they would. I regret pain I have caused others; I regret losing my self esteem; I regret losing my faith; I regret losing my trust and hope; I regret losing my kindness; yes, I have many regrets but they are all based on things I did rather than didn’t do. Am I responsible? Yes I am. Have I made amends? Yes I have, which has allowed me to let go and move forward.
Do I dream about the “what ifs” on occasion, sure I do, but those moments are fleeting. Do I lose focus of my goal? Sometimes yes, but I am always moving forward rather than looking back. We spend so much time worrying about what we haven’t done that we sometimes forget to do what it is that we seek. Have faith that whatever you do is the right thing when you do it and rejoice in your actions, rather than feel sorrow about your inaction. If it doesn’t work, change direction; don’t make yourself crazy with self criticism. We can only choose what we choose at the moment we choose it. We cannot know how something is going to work out before we do it despite all the analytical tools we have at our disposal in the digital world we live in. Some times I choose well; other times not.
My prayer for you today is that you will take action and keep looking forward with joy rather than backward with regret.
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