“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” Albert Camus
I remember as a child that I would be asked if I was happy and that I instinctively would say, “yes.” I was often asked why and never had a good answer, but began to question myself as to why I was happy and questioned myself into a permanent state of unhappiness. What a tragedy!
I no longer need to answer that question, as I am perpetually happy. It took me many years of determined effort to know that I did not need to “try” and be happy, but rather, I just needed to commence believing that I was entitled to be, was and would continue to be. Every morning I awaken to a new day I am ecstatic!!
As a Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Sober Coach in South Florida, I help people every day begin to accept that each of us has a right to experience happiness and joy right now! Not a minute from now, tomorrow or next week, but at this instant in time as you read these words. Happiness is not a goal to achieve. It is a state of mind and belief. I either choose to be happy or choose not to be.
Spending my day thinking about and analyzing my happiness does not elevate me to a state of happiness or joy, but rather to paralysis and immobilization. Being happy does not mean I do not feel sad, angry, frustrated or any other normal response to real life maladies, but it does mean that when those episodes are concluded, I am still happy. It is my state of being happy that helps me get through the rough spots in my life.
The happier I am the more positive I will be, the better I will feel and the more successful I will be at all that I do.
My prayer for you today is that you stop seeking happiness and rather, “just be” happy. You deserve it!