I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires. Susan B. Anthony
Susan Brownell Anthony was a prominent American civil rights leader who played a pivotal role in the 19th century women’s rights movement to introduce women’s suffrage into the United States. She traveled the United States, and Europe, and gave 75 to 100 speeches every year on women’s rights for 45 years.
As A Rabbi, Counselor and Sober Coach, a great deal of my time is spent helping people of all faiths resolve their struggles knowing what they think God wants them to do and be. They are in great pain over not having perfect clarity in this regard. They are constantly worried that they are doing the wrong things and that God is going to punish them. Even worse, they are going to go to hell rather than heaven. The despair that one can feel in this regard is beyond measure.
I know how they feel as I was one of them for a very long time. I believed that all the bad things that happened in my life were God expressing God’s anger at me and teaching me lesson upon lesson. Very slowly I have come to believe that there is nothing God wants me to do as I believe that everything I do is exactly what I should be doing at the moment I do it. How can I, the mere mortal that I am, know what God wants me to do? If I want to do it badly enough, I can always convince myself that God wants me to do it and I will dedicate whatever it is I want to do, to God. What a joke my thinking can be!
After nearly 24 years of not drinking or drugging, there is one complete statement that I can make with total comfort and acceptance: I believe there is a God (whatever that means), I have no idea what it is and I am not it. The beauty of my faith today is that I no longer need to know who or what God is. Just believing that God is fulfills me.
As an alcoholic/drug addict in recovery, I know that my primary purpose is to stay sober and help others. Beyond that and for those not addicts, I don’t know anything about what God wants me to do. My experience has taught me that it is better to be kind than mean; better to be patient than impatient; better to be accepting than judgmental; better to be polite than rude; better to give than take; better to love than hate; better to listen than speak; better to believe than doubt and so much more. Is that what God wants? I don’t know. What I do know is that if I keep being granted new days, one after another, I just may be doing something right and I don’t have to know if it is what God wants me to do, but I must be grateful for that first breath of my new day.
My prayer for you today is that you let go of needing to know what God wants for you and know that you already have it.
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