If It Is To Be It Is Up To Me – Someone Wise
I don’t know who wrote those words. What I do know is that the moment I heard them I knew they would change my life in ways that I could not know at that moment. Those words came into my life as a result of my son participating in a Teen Motivational Weekend about ten years ago.
When he got home we asked him how it was and what he had learned that he felt could help him, he said that it was great, that he had met and made some new friends and “if it is to be it is up to me.” We smiled as parents do when they have no clue what to say next. From that day forward, Danny has chosen to make that his mantra and we have gone from wondering whether he would be left back to attending award ceremonies watching him graduate High School, College and Graduate School with honors and awards. He will be graduating Law School in 2013 and we will be there to cheer him on as well.
When people compliment us on what a great job we have done with Danny, I always thank them, but make it abundantly clear that we have loved, encouraged, supported and listened to him, but that on a day to day basis, being 1000 miles away, he lived, “if it is to be it is up to me” and has earned every honor and award he has received.
During my active years drinking and drugging, the last ten words I wanted to or could hear were these ten as I took no responsibility for my success or my lack of success. Everything about me was external. Getting sober in 1988 and using the tools provided by AA and NA; 12 Steps, Sponsor, Fellowship, Service, Prayer, Meditation, Honesty, Willingness and Higher Power, I opened up to see that I was responsible for arriving on the doorstep of recovery and was now responsible for the choices I made one day at a time.
My journey of 24 years has taught me much, but for me, and I can only speak for me, owning my choices and loving me as I am are the most important two things I carry with me daily. If it is to be it is up to me is the mantra of my life in my life and in my work as a Rabbi, Sober Coach and Spiritual Counselor. I do not know what God is, but I do know that every morning when I inhale the first breath of a new day, I say Thank You. I do not concern my self with to whom or what I am expressing my gratitude as it does not matter to me. What matters to me is that I have a belief and faith in a power greater than me that blessed me with the gift of a new day.
My prayer for you today is that you own your choices and love you as you are. When I own my choices I am accepting me as I am an do not have to feel shame or blame any longer. Whatever it is, If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me.
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