How many of us have gone to places like Disney World, Barnum and Bailey Circus or the Arcade near where we live? Most of us at one time or another I imagine. We have gone and watched magic shows and sat there in awe of what appears to be the impossible. We have wondered over and over how the magician does what they do. We sit there and we watch every move they make and still cannot figure out how they do the tricks.
That process is very similar to what happens when we make the effort to control our own thoughts. I see you accomplish something amazing and wonder how you do that. I often forget to factor in the many steps it took you to achieve whatever your goal was that I find so incredible. Before I can order my mind to obey any command I give it, I must first see that my mind and my thoughts are like magic tricks; I know it happens, but I have to learn how to do the trick.
As a Rabbi and Counselor in South Florida, I am often asked by congregants and clients for tips on what they can do to be in a better frame of mind as they approach something new or want to change how they do something currently not working the way they would like.
I would like to suggest some tricks you can use to harness the power of your mind and thoughts so you may achieve all that you seek.
1. I must replace thoughts I don’t like with thoughts I do like.
This is much easier said than done! The goal here is not to try and stop thinking whatever negativity is going on, but rather to create a positive deflection that will totally veer you into a whole new mind set. An example might be how you feel about a grade you received in school or an evaluation you received at work. Regardless of how much I want to stop thinking about them I tend to think about them even more. If you tell me to stop thinking about them I will obsess over them. If however, I choose to totally change my focus, I might say, “I’m hungry, let’s get something to eat.” By doing that I completely change my focus and remove myself from the negativity; try it and see what happens; it works when I dedicate myself to doing over and over rather than doing it once and trashing it!
2. Calm myself to get results – do not force positive thinking.
The more relaxed I am, the more relaxed my mind is and the more I can help myself find solutions in the moment. The greater the pressure I put on me, the less likely it is that I will be successful and creative. Deep breathing can help me calm my mind down and be more open to my creativity. When I am able to create calm in my mind, I can usually approach my creativity more calmly.
3. Forgiveness will let go of resentments.
Once and for all, let us all agree that forgiveness is an act of my mind, not my heart. It is a decision I make so I may move on and work on more pressing matters than my resentment toward another person. I do not have to feel forgiveness to forgive. I just have to forgive. When I choose to forgive, the floodgates of my creativity flow like the Nile River.
4. To receive good things, give goodness to others first.
This is a simple trick. Give good thoughts and actions to others and get back all you seek.
I do not mean to suggest that if you do the above all will be well in your life and zero negativity will come to pass. I do mean, however, to suggest that if I want power over my thinking, I must play an active role in creating new and positive mental images and affirmations for me to visualize and actualize.
My prayer for you today is that you will allow your faith to create new and exciting positive images that will give you the power you seek over your thoughts and actions.
I am a modern and independent South Florida Sober Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 23+ years of sobriety providing Sober Coaching and Addiction/Spiritual Counseling focusing on energizing, affirming, motivating, healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events.
If you, a family member or friend are suffering, call me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.
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Hugs and blessings for a joyous day!