“Pretty can only get prettier, but beauty compounds itself.” Duke Ellington
How much time do you spend wondering if your are pretty or handsome? I would imagine, if you are anything like most of us, you spend a great deal of time putting yourself together. For what and for who? My beauty is in my soul and my deeds, not my physique, suit, bow tie, makeup, hairdo, shape of my nose and the list goes on. That does not mean that I should not take pride in my appearance, but at what point have I exceeded “pride in my appearance” and become obsessed with my body image?
Food was my first addiction and shame was my first affliction. I used food to hide myself from my shame based emotions and to shield me from intimate relationships with women. I was sober nearly 17 years from alcohol and drugs before I was spiritually ready to climb the mountain and heal what I refer to as my “final frontier”, food. I had reached 350 pounds, my health was declining rapidly and there was nothing pretty about me externally nor beautiful internally.
My faith had grown inside me to the point where I could see the seeds of beauty in my spirit and soul and was ready to take a leap of faith and reclaim my power to reflect my internal and external parts. Today I can proudly say that I am 150 pounds, lean, fit and incredibly sexy (LOL). I give thanks daily to the God of my understanding for the faith, courage and willingness to make choices daily that have restored my health, provided me with the fitness of a man half my age and shown me a pathway to help others in my work as a Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Eating Disorder Specialist.
My beauty reflects itself in how I care for myself spiritually, emotionally, nutritionally, mentally and physically for it is through those experiences, solutions and practice that I have learned how to accept and treat you. If I only look good for you, but do not feel good inside, what have I accomplished? It all starts with my inner beauty and we all have inner beauty. Regrettably, many of the people I speak with and counsel do not give themselves access to their inner beauty and spend their time on their external beauty.
My prayer for you today is that you give yourself time to not put on your makeup, wear old clothes, not shave for a day, not wear cologne or perfume and feel your inner beauty emerge, for then you will commence the compounding of your true beauty and we will all see it through your radiance and joy.
I am a modern and independent South Florida Sober Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 23+ years of sobriety providing Sober Coaching and Addiction/Spiritual Counseling focusing on energizing, affirming, motivating, healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events.
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Hugs and blessings for a joyous day!