“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
I am often asked if I am always as happy as I appear to be and the answer is a resounding YES. However, I also tell those that ask me, I work my butt off keeping my cup filled with gratitude and passion for living. I know that having a positive attitude does not come from my thinking it, but rather, there are a whole bunch of actions, thoughts and feelings that I experience that merge into a joy and happiness that propels me into a new dimension daily.
Allow me to be clear that all the years prior to and during my active addiction, my attitude was cynical, negative, doubtful and shame based. When I was blessed with recovery and saw all these happy faces, I was sick to my stomach. How could these people be happy when they were unemployed, without funds, divorced, etc.?
It was suggested to me that I employ some of the attitudes, actions and behaviors listed below and just keep doing them. I was told to just keep doing them and not leave before the miracle happened. Strange language for a man of words. What miracle? Was I in a cult and were they going to give me the cool aid to drink.
I stuck around as it seemed to be working for the people that were suggesting it for me and lo and behold, it began to happen for me. I use this list with both addict and non-addict clients in my work as Rabbi and Addiction/Spiritual Counselor and am pretty firm with them based on my experience and faith in them.
Some of my daily checklist includes the following:
- Upbeat and open
- See the good in everyone
- Love of life, people, animals and nature
- Thinks and speaks in the positive
- Doing silly things to make me laugh at myself
- Don’t take myself so seriously
- Having fun
- Enjoying what I do
- Elevating those around me
- Caring about others
- Doing for others
- Giving more than taking
- Living in the solution, not the problem
- Setting goals and achieving them
- Asking for forgiveness when I screw up at your expense
- Ending my day with gratitude
My ability to engage any combination of this checklist on a daily basis improves my odds for having a positive attitude and a successful day I can be proud of. There are many other items on my checklist that I will share with you another time. Why not make your own checklist and rocket yourself into the fourth dimension with your own positive attitude?
I am a modern and independent South Florida Sober Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 23+ years of sobriety providing Sober Coaching and Addiction/Spiritual Counseling focusing on energizing, affirming, motivating, healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events.
If you, a family member or friend are suffering, call me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.
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Hugs and blessings for a joyous day!