30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself – Part Four

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself – Part Foursol de oro

“When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.”

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth, but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

The next two weeks of messages will focus on this topic with three behaviors to consider stopping a day. I welcome your comments as you feel the need to send them to me as well as your phone calls to discuss hurdles facing you – 954-629-9281.

As a Sober Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Addiction Professional in South Florida, my experience has taught me that before I can just move forward, I have needed to examine, with rigorous honesty, what has held me back, and then determine whether I am ready to stop doing those behaviors. If I decide I am, I then have choices for new behaviors.

Starting with me, I can tell you that this is a daunting task not to be taken lightly. I needed help from a professional counselor as I started my journey with the premise that my best thinking nearly killed me, so clearly for me, relying on my best thinking about planning my future, was not a great idea.

I share that with you so that you know you have a choice. The choice is to affirm how deserving you are to have a happy life and how healthy it is to seek help or continue on the same path and go it alone and blame everyone for your unhappiness.

I chose a new path and am grateful for the help I received. I pray you choose a new path as well and benefit from knowing that you don’t have to be alone any longer.

I stand ready to help you as your counselor or to help you find the help you seek. I would love to discuss what you are seeking with you. Please call me today at 954-629-9281 and start your journey of healing and happiness.

And now, on to the next three to behaviors to reflect on:

10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. It is time to create love in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Let today be the day you begin saying, “I love you” to you as often as you choose to every day.

11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first. Any action is better for me than inertia. Standing still inside me means I cannot move. If I cannot move I cannot change, grow or find happiness.

If you cannot move, I know that pain and want to help you. Please call me today to begin your journey to action and affirmation – 954-629-9281.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

Change is uncomfortable! There, we now have identified aloud the elephant in the room. I will never grow from doing all that I enjoy. If it worked that way, we would all change immediately.


Okay, today I learned that no one can make me happy. I can and I am ready to take my power back and create a happy, loving me because I deserve to be happy, joyous and free.


My prayer for you today is that you look inside yourself to find your love and happiness, take action on your own behalf and know how ready you are today to find fulfillment.

Hugs, Love and Blessings Always!

Rabbi Mitch

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