30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself – Part One

“When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.”


As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth, but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

The next two weeks of messages will focus on this topic with three behaviors to consider stopping a day. I welcome your comments as you feel the need to send them to me as well as your phone calls to discuss hurdles facing you – 954-629-9281.

As a Sober Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Addiction Professional in South Florida, my experience has taught me that before I can just move forward, I have needed to examine, with rigorous honesty, what has held me back, and then determine whether I am ready to stop doing those behaviors. If I decide I am, I then have choices for new behaviors.

Starting with me, I can tell you that this is a daunting task not to be taken lightly. I needed help from a professional counselor as I started my journey with the premise that my best thinking nearly killed me, so clearly for me, relying on my best thinking about planning my future, was not a great idea.

I share that with you so that you know you have a choice. The choice is to affirm how deserving you are to have a happy life and how healthy it is to seek help or continue on the same path and go it alone and blame everyone for your unhappiness.

I chose a new path and am grateful for the help I received. I pray you choose a new path as well and benefit from knowing that you don’t have to be alone any longer.

I stand ready to help you as your counselor or to help you find the help you seek. I would love to discuss what you are seeking with you. Please call me today at 954-629-9281 and start your journey of healing and happiness.

Let us begin with the first three to examine.

1. Stop lying to yourself. – You are starting a journey so remember that you can only be as honest as you can be to start. Along the path more will be revealed to you. This does not mean you were dishonest. It only means that you could only remember what you could and with time and healing, you now remember more.

You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be rigorously honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.

2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever force yourself on someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

Getting honest, slowing down and choosing new people in my life, set the tone for me and my experience as a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor has shown me that it can for you as well.

 My prayer for you today is that you will love yourself enough to take that first step in looking at you as you are and knowing how valuable you are. You are not damaged goods. You are QUALITY – inside and out!

 I look forward to your call or email letting me know how well you are doing and how happy you are or asking for help to get through a difficult patch.

Hugs, love and blessings always!

Rabbi Mitch




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