“When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.”
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth, but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
The next two weeks of messages will focus on this topic with three behaviors to consider stopping a day. I welcome your comments as you feel the need to send them to me as well as your phone calls to discuss hurdles facing you – 954-629-9281.
As a Sober Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Addiction Professional in South Florida, my experience has taught me that before I can just move forward, I have needed to examine, with rigorous honesty, what has held me back, and then determine whether I am ready to stop doing those behaviors. If I decide I am, I then have choices for new behaviors.
Starting with me, I can tell you that this is a daunting task not to be taken lightly. I needed help from a professional counselor as I started my journey with the premise that my best thinking nearly killed me, so clearly for me, relying on my best thinking about planning my future, was not a great idea.
I share that with you so that you know you have a choice. The choice is to affirm how deserving you are to have a happy life and how healthy it is to seek help or continue on the same path and go it alone and blame everyone for your unhappiness.
I chose a new path and am grateful for the help I received. I pray you choose a new path as well and benefit from knowing that you don’t have to be alone any longer.
I stand ready to help you as your counselor or to help you find the help you seek. I would love to discuss what you are seeking with you. Please call me today at 954-629-9281 and start your journey of healing and happiness.
And now, on to the next three to behaviors to reflect on:
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
I urge you to use this short bold faced section of #8 as a daily affirmation to yourself using “I” and “me” instead of we, you and us, etc. These are great affirming statements to help you get your day started with a positive attitude.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions. Try as I did, I was blessed with the good fortune to pretty much buy whatever I wanted when I wanted and enjoyed it for a bit before it became clear once again that my money could not buy my happiness.
To sum up, allow yourself to make mistakes as you are human and you are going to whether you like it or not, the past has already happened and you cannot change it, so I beg of you to leave it in the past and begin to see how many opportunities you have today and affirm your ability to choose one and begin the journey inside to know just how valuable and loved you are and how little your money can “make” you feel good about something you don’t feel good about.
My prayer for you today is that you will find courage to say, “I forgive me”, allow yourself to make a mistake and look in your mirror and affirm how wonderful you are.
Hugs, Love and Blessings Always
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