As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth, but before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
The next two weeks of messages will focus on this topic with three behaviors to consider stopping a day. I welcome your comments as you feel the need to send them to me as well as your phone calls to discuss hurdles facing you – 954-629-9281.
As a Sober Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Addiction Professional in South Florida, my experience has taught me that before I can just move forward, I have needed to examine, with rigorous honesty, what has held me back, and then determine whether I am ready to stop doing those behaviors. If I decide I am, I then have choices for new behaviors.
Starting with me, I can tell you that this is a daunting task not to be taken lightly. I needed help from a professional counselor as I started my journey with the premise that my best thinking nearly killed me, so clearly for me, relying on my best thinking about planning my future, was not a great idea.
I share that with you so that you know you have a choice. The choice is to affirm how deserving you are to have a happy life and how healthy it is to seek help or continue on the same path and go it alone and blame everyone for your unhappiness.
I chose a new path and am grateful for the help I received. I pray you choose a new path as well and benefit from knowing that you don’t have to be alone any longer.
I stand ready to help you as your counselor or to help you find the help you seek. I would love to discuss what you are seeking with you. Please call me today at 954-629-9281 and start your journey of healing and happiness.
And now, on to the next three to behaviors to reflect on:
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. I am not able to be there for you until I am there for me.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one. The longer I held on to my old thinking and behaviors, the unhappier and frustrated I was. With the help of a professional, I was able to start letting go of negative behaviors and replace them with positive ones which led in time to less negative thinking, more positive affirmations and a beginning notion that I could do this. You can too.
I would like to suggest that you print these messages and put them in a binder and journal notes so you can chart your progress and begin to connect your dots as you journey along your new path to a happy and joyous life.
Making you your #1 priority, stopping people pleasing and beginning to let go of old behaviors and thoughts; these are monumental steps you have chosen to take to find your happy and joyous path in “your” life.
My prayer for you today is that you make time each day to rejoice in your willingness, courage and faith as you rediscover you and confidently say hello to the world with a smile and joy you have never known before.
Hugs and Blessings,
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