“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.” - Maya Angelou
Maya Angelou is an American autobiographer and poet who has been called “America’s most visible black female autobiographer”. She is best known for her series of six autobiographical volumes, which focus on her childhood and early adulthood experiences.
As a Rabbi, I am unfortunately called upon to officiate at funerals in my community. Over time, this has allowed me to listen to children and grandchildren share their experiences with their beloved father, mother or grandparent. By hearing their sharing at their most vulnerable time, I have learned much more than I have ever known about the differences between a house and a home.
Children and grandchildren rise at their moment of grief and with amazing candor and love describe houses where they lived but were not safe; buildings where they were judged, ridiculed, blamed, accused and infrequently praised. I officiated just last week at a funeral where a daughter described a mother who loved unconditionally, never yelled, never judged and yet, who when she became a mother, yelled and ridiculed constantly. Go figure.
I love that my step son knows that he was raised in a home not a house and has seen the differences when visiting his friends. He has frequently commented to us on the differences between us and others and how grateful he is. Neither his mother nor I were raised in homes, yet we have worked hard to overcome that, know that our parents did the best they could and have strived to change what we created in our house. I am proud of us and the blessings we have provided in creating a home where everyone knows they are safe, loved and always welcome.
My prayer for you today is that you make your house a home with love, acceptance, patience, open mindedness, willingness, faith and hope.
Hugs and Blessings,
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