“Titles are but nicknames, and every nickname is a title.”  -  Thomas Paine

Smarty pants, nature boy, string bean, honey, baby, stretch, braniac, muscles, shrimp, hot stuff, butch, giraffe, tiger, hairy, dough boy, marlboro man, camel breath, romeo, baldie, sparky, dollface, hot dog, boom boom and many others.

At some time in our lives we either have been called or called others by a nickname. The purposes of doing this are manifold. Depending upon the time in our lives and the person we were addressing, we could have been motivated by cruelty, love, warmth, affection, resentment, intimacy, anger, fun, teasing or immaturity in addition to many other motives.

I learned over time how hurtful nicknames could be as I was often called chubby and fatso while growing up. The worst one was cry baby because I was prone to tears when offended. As a result, as I grew I never used nicknames when addressing another person even when it was a sign of intimacy and the person wanted me to. In many of my relationships I was asked to call my partner by her abbreviated or nickname and thought the request was a sign of weakness, not wellness.

As a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor, I know today and have known for many years now that nicknames can be terms of endearment, love, affection and very deep caring for another. When asked to use one the other person is saying to me how much they trust and feel safe with me. Now that I trust and feel safe with me, I am capable of honoring your trust and affection.

My prayer for you today is that you find your nicknames for you inside you, embrace and cherish them with all your heart and find another person you trust to share them with.


Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

1 Comment

  1. On most occasions, nick names are intended to make fun of other especially in schools & colleges. What the people who don’t understand is the trauma that haunts the taunted child.

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