Choices

“Peacefulness follows any decision, even the wrong one.” –  Rita Mae Brown

Rita Mae Brown is an American writer. She is best known for her first novel Rubyfruit Jungle. Published in 1973, it dealt with lesbian themes in an explicit manner unusual for the time. Brown is also a mystery writer and screenwriter.

In the late 1960s, Brown turned her attention to politics. She became active in the American Civil Rights Movement, the anti-war movement, the Gay Liberation movement and the feminist movement. She took an administrative position with the fledgling National Organization for Women, but angrily resigned in February 1970 over Betty Friedan‘s anti-gay remarks and NOW’s attempts to distance itself from lesbian organizations.

There is never a day that does not challenge me regarding the choices I have and the decisions I need to make; oops, I did it again. The decisions I need to make is really the choices I choose, for I don’t really “need” to do anything, do I? I may not like my choices, but in the end, it is my choice I make and only mine. I may not want the responsibility for having to make the choice, but it is my responsibility. No matter how hard I try I cannot pass the buck. What gets in our way of choosing?

As a Rabbi, Spiritual Counselor and Addictions Professional, I work with my clients to see the power, opportunity, challenges, responsibility, accountability, tension and joy of choosing. Learning to choose when coming from a place of emptiness or dominance takes time, patience, love and faith.

My experience and the experience of others have taught me that we all struggle with choices based on our lack of clarity regarding our values. I believe we all know that when we are clear about what we believe our choices become very clear and although we still not like what we have to choose from, we are able to make the choice more easily and peacefully. Differently than Rita Mae, I do not believe we make wrong choices. I believe that some are better than others, but that none are wrong. We all do the best we can at the moment we choose and that we could not have made any other choice than the one we made. If what I choose today does not work out, I can always choose another path. I stay away from right and wrong and instead, choose to believe that I am choosing exactly as I am supposed to at that moment in time.

My prayer for you today is that you will know you well enough to choose within you and own your choices with the same unconditional love that God has for you.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

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