Communicating From Your Heart Rather Than Your Head

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” –  Dr. Seuss

Theodor Seuss Geisel was an American writer and cartoonist most widely known for his children’s books written under the pen name Dr. Seuss.

Do you communicate responsibly within your spiritual/loving relationships? We strive for emotional intimacy in our deepest and most loving relationships. What does it take to get there? It takes a great deal of courage and emotional honesty. Our emotional honesty and courage come from our hearts, not our heads. We learn over time that it is safe for us to trust and be vulnerable with the intimate partner we want to have intimate communications with.

As a Rabbi and Spiritual/Addictions Counselor, I am honored by the trust people endow me with when sharing the most confidential and intimate details of their lives. Their courage amazes me. When they thank me for helping them, I always tell them that what I provide is a safe setting for them to heal, but whatever results they achieve are based on the work they have done to get where they are.

When I take a stab at intimate communications within my head, I often end up communicating defensively rather than openly, honestly and vulnerably. When I come from my heart, I may feel awkward, but it doesn’t matter because it was sincere, open, loving and accessible. Learning feeling and heart vocabulary takes time because the words can only come when I allow my defenses to come down and my heart to open up.

My prayer for you today is that you find the barriers inside you on your journey to intimate communications, allow them to abate and trust that your heart will know what to do.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

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