“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” - Brian Tracy
At every stage of my life I have experienced awkwardness within me. It has manifested itself through shyness, poor posture, unwillingness to try something new, shame, discomfort, poor body image, stammering speech, denial and more. I cannot imagine that I am the only one who has.
I have learned that it is not through my comfort that I grow, but through my discomfort and awkwardness that I grow. As a Rabbi and Counselor, I have had great success in helping people heal their awkwardness and find comfort within.
What got me through mine and likely you through yours was ultimately taking action in the areas where I felt most awkward and finding out that I was okay or even better, quite good at whatever it was that had me feeling awkward. My two most awkward times in my life were as a teenager when I was chubby and had zero confidence socially. If a girl said hello to me I would fold over with my face down, start to sway and shyly say hello. That one lasted a long time. My other was learning how to play golf. The contortions I have to go through to get me into a position feel so awkward yet the results can be prodigious.
That is the point for all of us. We are all going to feel awkward at times about whatever it is we feel awkward about. We are human, vulnerable and lacking in some areas. I have learned that my feelings of awkwardness come only when I expect too much from myself. When I accept that I do okay not knowing how to do something, I become teachable and enjoy learning. As a result I feel less awkward. Once again, whether it is golf, dancing, public speaking or for that matter I do not know how to do or do not do well, I just need to smile inside, like me, let go and have fun.
My prayer for you today is that you say goodbye to your awkwardness and hello to your humanness.
Hugs and Blessings,
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