“A man begins cutting his wisdom teeth the first time he bites off more than he can chew. “ – Herb Caen
Herbert Eugene Caen was a Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist working in San Francisco. Caen worked for the San Francisco Chronicle from the late 1930s until his death in 1997. Caen gained fame with his column “It’s News to Me,” which was first published July 5, 1938. His columns were known for their dry wit and their author’s intimate knowledge of the happenings in his city. Caen had a considerable influence on pop culture and its language; most notably, he coined the term “beatnik” in his April 2, 1958 column and popularized the word “hippie” during San Francisco’s 1967 Summer of Love.
How often have we looked at something and said, “I can do that” or something like that? Often I am sure. The younger we are the more likely we did that with greater regularity as there was nothing we did not believe we could do. Can you remember the first time you went head first into a new experience and crashed rather quickly? This was something novel as I had never had that happen before. What did I do? I got up and went head first into the experience over and over believing I would succeed. I didn’t. I went to my parents and asked them what I needed to do to be successful and they foolishly suggested that maybe I needed to accept that this particular experience was not meant to be. How old and ridiculous could they be? What did they know?
As a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor in Recovery, I have learned that despite my best intentions, motives and desire, the answer is still “NO.” Helping congregants and clients learn that is time consuming and I reassure them that I fully respect their need to find their own path in their journey to the “wisdom to know the difference.”
Well, as I have come to learn, my wisdom teeth are not only in my mouth, but in my acceptance as well. As I have grown I have come to know that some things are not meant to be. The sooner I accept that the greater my wisdom becomes. For me, my wisdom has grown as my faith and trust in a God have grown as I believe today that whatever happens is meant to be and when I give my “best” effort and the outcome is other than what I had hoped for, I smile internally and move on. That is my wisdom speaking to me.
My prayer for you today is that you find your wisdom in your acceptance and faith and feel the joy of growing in new ways.
I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.
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