Communicating From Your Heart Rather Than Your Head

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” –  Dr. Seuss

Theodor Seuss Geisel was an American writer and cartoonist most widely known for his children’s books written under the pen name Dr. Seuss.

Do you communicate responsibly within your spiritual/loving relationships? We strive for emotional intimacy in our deepest and most loving relationships. What does it take to get there? It takes a great deal of courage and emotional honesty. Our emotional honesty and courage come from our hearts, not our heads. We learn over time that it is safe for us to trust and be vulnerable with the intimate partner we want to have intimate communications with.

As a Rabbi and Spiritual/Addictions Counselor, I am honored by the trust people endow me with when sharing the most confidential and intimate details of their lives. Their courage amazes me. When they thank me for helping them, I always tell them that what I provide is a safe setting for them to heal, but whatever results they achieve are based on the work they have done to get where they are.

When I take a stab at intimate communications within my head, I often end up communicating defensively rather than openly, honestly and vulnerably. When I come from my heart, I may feel awkward, but it doesn’t matter because it was sincere, open, loving and accessible. Learning feeling and heart vocabulary takes time because the words can only come when I allow my defenses to come down and my heart to open up.

My prayer for you today is that you find the barriers inside you on your journey to intimate communications, allow them to abate and trust that your heart will know what to do.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-629-9281 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Mysteries

“We have to stop and be humble enough to understand that there is something called mystery.” - Paulo Coelho

 Paulo Coelho is a Brazilian lyricist and novelist. I was recently at the Bat Mitzvah of a friend’s daughter. Talk about soaring spirits, the celebrant is an amazing young woman with a spirit filled with endless possibilities. Prior to services, I was invited to meet a relative who wanted to know how my Yarmulke (Head Covering) stayed on my completely bald head. I told him that I used two sided tape, but that there were also things that were just not meant to understand. How it stayed on my head was one of the mysteries of life and did not require an explanation. He and I both laughed, but it gave me pause to reflect on all the mysteries there are and how little we all truly meant to comprehend.

As a Rabbi, people are often shocked when I say that I do not know the answer to their question as it is one of the many mysteries of life. Yes, we can study, discuss, agree to disagree, form opinions, etc., but at the end of the day, there are things in God’s world that we just accept on faith as there is no rational explanation.

We sometimes take all the fun out of faith by having to have answers to everything. What is it that we are seeking? We often do not even know. I know that when I found a dose of humility I began to require fewer and fewer answers and began to relish the mysteries in God’s universe. It no longer matter why things happened the way they did, but rather to be in awe of the fact they did. I was now okay with not knowing or understanding something. I found serenity in just admiring God’s mysteries and not having to know how or why they were the way they were.

My prayer for you today is that you will seek the answer to one less thing and embrace the mystery with your faith and soul.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-629-9281 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Give More

“There are those who [generously] scatter abroad, and yet increase more; there are those who withhold more than is fitting or what is justly due, but it results only in want.” - Proverbs 11:24

 Everything we set out to do involves planting a seed. God is forever watching over us to see who the sowers are and makes sure that we have more and more to give. The giving that God wants for us is not just about money. I know from my experience that my God wants me to plant spiritual seeds as well in building loving and enduring relationships, providing service to others, having a happy career, smiling more, hugging more, listening more and the list is endless.

When I choose to act in a holy spiritual manner, God blesses me with an even greater capacity to give as a Rabbi in Recovery and Spiritual Counselor.

My prayer for you today is that you choose to be a sower and a giver. I pray that you will see the people around you the way God sees you.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-629-9281 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

What Kind of Day Will You Have?

“It’s so hard when I have to, and so easy when I want to.” –  Annie Gottlier

 I have scoured the net to find more information about Annie Gottlier and it seems that she is a soaring spirit of no particular fame or note to the public, but is wonderful within herself.

As a Rabbi in Recovery and Spiritual Counselor, I help my clients and congregants realize that the kind of day they are going to have is up to them and the attitude they bring to the task.

What kind of day will you have is a daily question we all face. I know that when I awaken to the new day and inhale the first breath of the new day God has blessed me with, I affirm God, affirm God’s love for me, give thanks for another day and tell myself that I am already having a great new day and it can only get better.

Although I am powerless over people, places and things, I am absolutely in control of my attitude about all three. When I can remember that I always have a choice, I no longer have to do anything, but rather, want to, because I have chosen to. What a difference wanting to makes over having to.

My prayer for you today is that you remember that you always have a choice and “want to” rather than “have to.”

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-629-9281 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Finding Your Spirit

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – A Course in Miracles

I was recently appointed the Spiritual Advisor to a Substance Abuse Rehab in South Florida. I feel honored and blessed to be given the opportunity to help people suffering from the loss of their spirit. Some twenty four plus years ago I found myself in their shoes. I had hit rock bottom and was spiritless, hopeless and defeated. If you have ever found yourself in that position you know how empty you feel.

I had built up walls of defense that were so thick that a direct hit by a Scud missile could not penetrate my shell. There were people in my path that very gently and lovingly, piece by piece, helped me find my spirit and commence tearing down my walls. Today my spirit is soaring and I am giving back to the people I see what was so freely given to me by others. I feel so alive today in helping these people see that our spirituality is wherever we are at the moment we are there. It is forever changing and emerging. I had to learn that over many years I had built barriers that prevented me from not only feeling my spirit, but knowing that I even had one. I guess you say that my spirit was very dark and angry.

Today, my joy is in working with others both publicly and privately in doing Spiritual Counseling as a Rabbi in Recovery. I love helping people heal their wounded souls and spirits and find new joy and happiness within themselves.

My prayer for you today is that you see your barriers inside you, tear them down and know a new freedom and happiness within.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-629-9281 to get the help you deserve.