Obesity

“To say that obesity is caused by merely consuming too many calories is like saying that the only cause of the American Revolution was the Boston Tea Party.” – Adelle Davis

Daisie Adelle Davis, popularly known as Adelle Davis, was an American author and a pioneer in the fledgling field of nutrition during the mid-20th century. She advocatedwhole unprocessed foods, criticized food additives, and claimed that dietary supplements and other nutrients play a dominant role in maintaining health, preventing disease, and restoring health after the onset of disease.

I dare to write about this most painful topic as I lived most of my life as a morbidly obese person. Not just obese; morbidly obese. Morbidly is defined as pathological. That is very powerful. For those of you out there that either struggle or know others who do, I want you to know that I truly understand your pain.

There is nothing funny about obesity yet many of us laugh uncontrollably at obese humor; we point out very large people and lament them; if they are family or friends we may even ask them if they have had enough to eat or if they would like another piece. Where does our cruelty come from? It has been my experience that most people don’t know what to say or do and instead of saying or doing nothing, they tease or taunt in ways they describe as “loving.”

In my case, I made fun of myself to relax you and make it okay for you to tease me. Oh, just to set the record straight, at my peak I weighed 347 pounds; I now way 150 pounds. How did I get that way? As Adelle Davis says in her quote, there are myriad reasons that don’t bear discussion in this message, but suffice it to say, it wasn’t just food. My pain was significant both internally and externally. Until I was ready to confront it, there was nothing I could do. Once I was ready you couldn’t stop me!

If you are out there and suffering or know someone who is, please be in touch as I truly do understand how you feel and would like to hear from you. There are solutions and methods to help if you are ready to hear them. Regardless, please know that your value and beauty has nothing to do with the scale. Your heart, soul and kindness are your measure, not your waist.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.

Please, let me hear from you so together we can heal each other.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Rules To Live By – Part II

This is a continuation of suggestions that were sent to me by dear and loving friends. As a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor, one of the greatest gifts I receive is the benefit of your experience, strength and hope. You teach me so much through your faith, courage, willingness and action. Whoever you are and whatever you have done continually changes my life. Where they come from is anybody’s guess, but they impacted me so I choose to share them with you. Pay it forward if they have any meaning for you. I pray they do.

  1. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. Describe how you feel, not what the other person is.
  2. Don’t judge people by their relatives. Because I was born into a family doesn’t make me responsible for who they are and what they do. I must remember that others judge me as harshly as I judge them.
  3. Talk slowly but think quickly. Once it is out of my mouth it is to late.
  4. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’ You have a right to not answer every question you are asked.
  5. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk. Have faith and trust in yourself, others and the God of your understanding.
  6. Say ‘God bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.  It is an endearing custom and people appreciate it. I know I do.
  7. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson! If you learn something you haven’t lost.
  8. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions. The three A’s are: Affirmation, Admiration and Accountability.
  9. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship. A true friend will both hurt and heal.
  10. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. If you wait you will make it worse for you and others.
  11. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice. They will smile back and you will hear it in theirs.
  12. Spend some time alone. Learn to value you and the time you spend with you. You are priceless and deserve to enjoy yourself.

Above all else remember, a true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Rules To Live By – Part I

Rules to Live By:

My next two messages are going to contain suggestions that were sent to me by dear and loving friends.  As a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor, one of the greatest gifts I receive is the benefit of your experience, strength and hope. You teach me so much through your faith, courage, willingness and action. Whoever you are and whatever you have done continually changes my life. Where they come from is anybody’s guess, but they impacted me so I choose to share them with you. Pay it forward if they have any meaning for you. I pray they do.

  1. Always give people more than expect and do it with an open heart and big smile.
  2. Marry a person you love to talk with as their conversation skills will become more important as your age and your priorities change.
  3. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep away the day.
  4. When you say, I love you; mean it with all your heart and soul. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it.
  5. When you say, I am sorry, make eye contact. If you can’t you are not ready to apologize.
  6. Be engaged at least six months before getting married. What is the rush to be married?
  7. Believe in love at first sight. I do and you can to.
  8. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have their own dreams need to crush yours.
  9. Love passionately and deeply. You may get your head bashed in, but it is the only way to live life completely.

 

I pray that you will find some value in the ideas put forth above and share them. If you have any that you would like to share with me, I always love hearing from you. You may email them to me at: mitch@rabbimitch.com.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Anxiety

“If I had my life to live over, I would perhaps have more actual troubles but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.” –  Don Herold 

Don Herold was an American humoristwriterillustrator, and cartoonist who wrote and illustrated many books and was a contributor to national magazines.

It is clear to me that Mr. Herold understood the nature of anxiety as I write about it today. There are many types of anxiety, but the one I want to talk about today is the one we all seem to create over our projections of things yet to come. We imagine outcomes that have no basis in reality save for our imaginations. How vivid our imaginations are; we can create a masterpiece with it or we can create doom and gloom. Why that is does not matter. What matters to me is what I can do about it for it is always through action that I find my answers to those imaginary demons I create.

My work as a Rabbi and Spiritual Counselor is frequently outside the realm of traditional religion. I have great respect for religious teachings and tradition, but did not find my faith and life’s purpose in their teachings. I looked outside the traditional teachings and found new traditions that for me created a pathway to peace, serenity, faith and happiness which led to new meaning and purpose in old messages.

You may laugh, which I did at first, but my solution came in the form of a second voice inside my head. My voice of anxiety creates tension and stress and until I learned how to answer that voice I truly was doomed. I can remember when it was suggested to me, I laughed and though the idea crazy. The person who suggested it to me asked me if I thought I was doomed to live in a perpetual state of anxiety. I didn’t know how to answer, so I asked him what he meant.

He went on to say that if I could have enough faith and was willing to give something new a chance, I could defeat the anxiety demon inside me. I didn’t really have enough faith, but I believed that he believed so I relied upon his faith and my trust in him. He told me that just as I had the ability to imagine fear and negative outcomes, so too did I have the ability to create positive outcomes and hope. It seemed rational, but how to do this.

What I had to create was my own higher power inside me to tell the fear to leave. That’s right, I had to challenge the fear and fight back. I couldn’t think the challenge; I had to scream at my anxiety at the top of my lungs as it was so ingrained inside me after so many years. Candidly, it took me for granted and it relied on me not having the courage, hope, willingness and faith to fight back. My courage came from watching this person and others integrate this behavior and see their results. My faith at that time came from them until I could find my own. I did and lo and behold, I no longer have the same anxiety I once did. I am clearly human so I do get anxious by projecting at times, but today I have a reply that really does work.

My prayer for you today is to give life to your affirming and positive voice and rid yourself of your imaginary demons and create your angels of mercy.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch

Not Knowing

“Teach thy tongue to say “I do not know” and thou shalt progress.” – Maimonides 

Maimonides was a preeminent medieval Jewish philosopher, one of the greatestTorah scholars of the Middle Ages. He is also known by the names Moses Maimonides, Rabbi Moshe ben Maimon or the acronym the Rambam. He worked as a rabbiphysician, and philosopher in Spain, Morocco and Egypt. With the contemporary Muslim sage Averroes, he promoted and developed the philosophical tradition of Aristotle, which gave both men prominent and controversial influence in the West, where Aristotelian thought had been lost for centuries. Albert the Great and Thomas Aquinas were notable Western readers of Maimonides.

Many people have this notion that as a Rabbi, I “should” know everything and many people in recovery believe that with being 24+ years sober, I “should” be perfect. Bah Humbug to both!! I don’t know are the three most powerful words I know today. 

I don’t know; Three of the most difficult words for us to utter. Admit we don’t know something and ask for help; another seemingly impossible task. What is it that we were taught that makes it so difficult to utter these simple words? What happens when we do? We grow in ways we cannot imagine before hand yet we continue to struggle with saying them.

I can testify happily that when I learned to say those magical three words my life changed forever and I learned more than I had ever known. My value of me soared and my value of you came with me.

My prayer for you today is that you will experiment with saying these three words and share with me the results of your experience.

I am a modern and independent Rabbi with an MSW Degree and 24+ years of sobriety providing addiction counseling focusing on healing, spiritual guidance and personalized life cycle events. If you, a family member or friend are in need of my services, please contact me at 954-755-3764 to get the help you deserve.

Hugs and Blessings,
Rabbi Mitch